"Gaslighting " means to drive someone crazy. It comes from the 1944
film Gaslight, in which a husband convinces his wife she's losing her
mind. Gaslighting is the most potent form of psychological warfare
you can use without a license.
In Gaslighting : How To Drive Your Enemies Crazy, Victor Santoro
(The "Godfather of Harassment") shows you how to destroy your
target's confidence, self-esteem and reputation. Through a series of
small incidents, your target gets progressively more confused, until
he's "reduced to a shapeless mass of shivering, quivering jelly."
Some of the tactics covered include:
*Collecting information on your target
*Preparing for a gaslighting attack
*Creating tension, anxiety and sleeplessness
*Messing with your target's car, telephone and mail
*Gaslighting at your target's workplace and home
*Turning neighbors and co-workers against the target
*Covering your tracks *And much more.
Gaslighting will show you how to cause disorientation, get your
target off balance, and build up his paranoia. Finally, you
completely annihilate his reputation, leading to personal disasters
such as job loss, divorce, financial devastation ­p; even jail.
A common form of brainwashing in which an abuser tries to falsely
convince the victim that the victim is defective, for any purpose
whatsoever, such as making the victim more pliable and easily
controlled, or making the victim more emotional and therefore more
needy and dependent.
Often done by friends and family members, who claim (and may even
believe) that they are trying to be helpful. The gaslighting abuser
sees himself or herself as a nurturing parental figure in relation to
the victim, and uses gaslighting as a means for keeping the victim in
that relationship, perhaps as punishment for the victim's attempt to
break out of the dependent role.
Example: If an abusive person says hurtful things and makes you cry,
and then, instead of apologizing and taking responsibility, starts
recommending treatments for what he or she calls "your depression"
or "your mood swings," you are in the presence of a gaslighter.
Etymology: Term is named after the film Gaslight (1944), in which the
villain used the technique.
Related: Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy (MSBP).
Synonyms, nonstandard: gaslight syndrome; gaslighting syndrome.
Below is what I have experienced
Re your letter dated 20 September 2001
Assessment: I contacted you shortly after I returned home from the appointment with Walls, making my concerns of the way the assessment was conducted known to you.
You replied by stating we should wait until we received his report.
This I did. When I received the report, I once again made my concerns known to you!
The man was late. The man very quickly glanced over some paperwork, which I presume was documents that you had forwarded to him.
In short, in comparison to other assessments that have been done on my condition, from start to finish his examination was by far the quickest!
Then, I guess to cover his arse for this, and for the quick thrill he may have got from "brushing against my penis", he creates a smoke screen by commenting on my dress standard! Ah yes, no-one will believe a complaint by a disgruntled ACC client because its seen as being "Dissatisfied with the bum report"!
I want an assessment done which is both true and honest.
Regarding my last cert. I faxed you one on the Monday, then again at your request on the Wednesday morning. After I sent that, I tried to contact you to see if you had received it. But you had already left your office.
On the Thursday, Heather contacted me in regards to your request for her to send yet another copy! When I spoke to you about that, you mentioned that the one I faxed on the Wednesday did in fact arrive!
Stop fluffing me around Ms MacDonnell. You have done nothing but create obstructions for me ever since you started on the job.
As for my obligations to ACC. I have a stack of letters here from companies, which I have contacted, making enquiries about possible employment for myself! I don�t sit on my butt doing nothing all day like some other claimants do Ms MacDonnell! During this time, I have also invested a dam lot of money into my web project. My previous case managers have all be fully supportive of my project. Money that could have been used to get my teeth fixed, money that could have paid all my debts with Baycorp stemming from my last gallant attempt to get into work! Money that should have gone towards descent food!
But no, my ambition is to get this website up and running so I don�t have to depend on ACC for the rest of my life!
Weekly Compensation: Earlier this year, about the time you started with Aon, it appears my entitlements were not banked for quite some time regardless of the fact my cert was submitted only one day late!
Please be aware that I find it difficult to walk down to see my doctor if I�m in pain. Like now Ms MacDonnell, it is very humid outside, this causes sharp stabbing like pain in my knees, hip and ankle joints. On top of that, my lower back is as tight as a �!
I don�t think pain management has any control over the weather, or do they?
I also have a lot of problems with my left hand.
Communication: Yes Ms MacDonnell, I have expressed a lot of fustraction and anger concerning a few issues! The main one being you Ms MacDonnell!
You have done nothing other than to obstruct me ever since I informed you of my problems with my tenancy.
Had the Tenancy Tribunal Act allowed me legal representation at the onset of the first hearing, then the pressure would have been off me so I could have kept the appointments. I explained to each and every person who you asked to phone me about a time and date for an appointment that I would most likely not be able to keep the appointment due to me having to prepare my defence.
From day one Ms MacDonnell, I walked into the city, went to the court house, and sometimes waited there for several hours each and every day until they gave me the right documents! My solicitor is now preparing a damages claim against the Tenancy Tribunal.
I have also instructed my solicitor to look into possible legal action against you and your employer, Aon, for breaching my privacy by releasing income details without requesting my permission.
As of today, Sunday 30th September 2001, I withdraw my permission that permitted you to forward details to others about me. Anthing that I have signed is now void.
I will sign a new document once we set down the rules Ms MacDonnell.
I request that Aon forward my case file back to ACC where I feel the case managers are more helpful to their clients, NOT a hindrance to them!
Has Dr Walls got an interest in the company that sells you the BackFriends?
The lady informed me that Walls refers a lot of Aons clients to them!
Is this correct?
Under the privacy act, I request details on how many of Aons ACC clients are refered to Walls surgery for assessments, and how much does each one cost the ACC levy payer, and how many have complained about not getting a fair and honest assessment done by them?
If you don�t give me that info, then I guess the NZ Herald will request it themselves! They seem to get action once things are printed. Don�t think Walls would be too happy about the Herald knowing he tends to examine parts of the body that he has no right to be near!
The man was lucky that my eyes were closed at the time. If his eyes were in the wrong place when that happened, I would most likely have kicked the pervert in the balls Ms MacDonnell. And you still think I�m making it up!
Think again Ms MacDonnell. I don�t bullshit my way in life like you and walls appear to be doing!
Mt Eden Auckland.